Corie, you are such a brave woman and a wonderful soul. I could feel the pain that you have gone through which you are now bravely overcoming.
Self love is the most beautiful gift a person can give themselves. I don't know if you believe in rebirth but I feel that many of us come into this world to learn that - maybe because we have spend too many past lives putting others first. By loving ourselves, we also fight the pandemic of "giving too much of oneself in a way that is harmful to ones own self" which is an energy that seems to be pervading society.
You mentioned that you don't have much choice with the chronic illness. Maybe there's choice there too. Check out a documentary on Netflix called 'Heal'. It might open some doorways.
I am sure you will win this battle. Lots of good wishes and healing to you!!!